A woman who was raised by a lesbian mother and her partner after her parents divorced is speaking out against same-sex “marriage” and the affect that it can have on children such as herself.
Heather Barwick, now 31, wrote an open letter this past week entitled “Dear Gay Community: Your Kids Are Hurting,” in which she shared her own personal story of growing up without a father.
Barwick said that her mother and father divorced when she was just a toddler as her mother sought to enter into a same-sex relationship. But she stated that she often desired to have a father, who was now not there.
“I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy,” Barwick explained in The Federalist.
As she grew older, Barwick sought sexual relationships with boyfriends in order to fill the void that she felt.
“My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad,” she said. “I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.”
And while Barwick said that she was a proponent for same-sex “marriage” into her adulthood, she has since changed her mind upon reflecting on her own upbringing.
“Growing up, and even into my 20s, I supported and advocated for gay marriage,” she explained. “It’s only with some time and distance from my childhood that I’m able to reflect on my experiences and recognize the long-term consequences that same-sex parenting had on me.”
“Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not,” Barwick continued. “A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting.”
The now married mother of four explained that many children who were raised by homosexuals feel the same way, but are afraid to voice their feelings out of the fear that they will be misunderstood.
“If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater,” she said. [But] this isn’t about hate at all.”
Barwick, whose mother remains a part of her life, also told World that she has since forgiven her father as well for his absence after her mother divorced him.
“It really wasn’t until I came to Christ that I felt that burden lifted off of me,” she said. “And I’m not bitter. I’m not angry. I forgive my dad.”
Earlier this year, half a dozen Americans who were raised by same-sex parents submitted briefs to the U.S. Supreme Court in opposition of same-sex “marriage.” One of those is Katy Faust, who wrote an open letter to Justice Anthony Kennedy in The Public Discourse.
“My parents’ divorce has been the most traumatic event in my thirty-eight years of life,” she wrote. “While I did love my mother’s partner and friends, I would have traded every one of them to have my mom and my dad loving me under the same roof.”
“We (those submitting briefs to the court) are just the tip of the iceberg of children currently being raised in gay households,” Faust continued. “When they come of age, many will wonder why the separation from one parent who desperately mattered to them was celebrated as a ‘triumph of civil rights,’ and they will turn to this generation for an answer.”