During an appearance on ABC’s “The View” on Friday, Everyday Sunday’s Trey Pearson, who released a letter last week to fans in which he came out as a homosexual, outlined that he has left his wife after deciding to no longer fight against having feelings for men.
As previously reported, Pearson, known for the hit songs “Find Me Tonight,” “Wake Up! Wake Up!” and “Best Night of Our Lives,” wrote in his public letter that he has come to believe that he has been wrong for subduing his emotions.
“I have been suppressing these attractions and feelings since adolescence,” he said. “Trying not to be gay has only led to a desire for intimacy in friendships which pushed friends away, and it has resulted in a marriage where I couldn’t love or satisfy my wife in a way that she needed.”
Pearson said that he doesn’t believe that change is possible.
“I am never going to be able to change how I am, and no matter how healthy our relationship becomes, it’s never going to change what I know deep down: that I am gay,” he stated.
On “The View” on Friday, Pearson suggested that he divorced his wife and moved out, as he referred to his wife of seven years as his “ex-wife,” and said that he meets with her and his two children once a week. He was asked by guest co-host LaLa Anthony if he was dating, and replied that he wanted to wait a year before entering into a relationship with a man.
“I am not dating. I decided when I was going through all of this to take at least a year just to get to know myself as a gay person—to know this knew part of me, before I start getting to know who somebody else is in that sort of way,” he replied.
“My ex-wife and my two beautiful kids, we share every week, we hang out every week, we have dinner together as a family every week,” Pearson continued. “And that’s where my focus is. My focus is on being who I need to be for them, being healthy for them, and being healthy for myself. That way I can be healthy for other people.”
He had written in his letter last week that he was trying to sort through how to only be friends with his wife and yet co-parent their children.
When asked by Joy Bahar if he still considers himself a Christian, Pearson replied, “I feel like I’m more in love with Jesus and the Scriptures than ever as I’ve progressed in my faith and as I’ve experience this grace, this restoration, this being able to embrace truth without being scared of what people that live in fear feel like.”
He said he wants the Church to accept homosexuality.
“I want to see my church change. I want to see our denomination change,” Pearson said. “I want to see people to be willing to have the conversation in an open way where they are willing to listen to people’s stories.”
The musician, who is scheduled to perform at a homosexual pride event next week, said that he finds it “damaging” when ministers call homosexuality a choice.
“There are still people that are teaching these hurtful things and they are the ones that get scared when millions of people connect with it,” he stated. “And they want to say that you’re the false teacher, but they never start to think that it’s their false teaching that causes things like this to happen in the first place.”
Not all Christians believe that same-sex attraction is a choice, but rather a part of the Adamic sin nature that must be regenerated by the second birth, as Jesus outlined in John 3:5-7, “Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.”
2 Corinthians 5:14-17 also reads, “For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead. And that He died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto Him which died for them, and rose again. … Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”