Year After Affair Admission, Divorce, Tullian Tchividjian Emerges With New Wife, Preaches God ‘Bends Toward’ Sinners

TullianFORT LAUDERDALE, Fla. — A year after the grandson of evangelist Billy Graham resigned from his role as pastor of a Florida megachurch following his admission to being involved in an inappropriate relationship, and subsequently being counseled to divorce his wife, Tullian Tchividjian has now remarried.

In social media post on Wednesday, Tchividjian repeated his remorse for his affairs in 2014 and 2015, stating, “I wish I could go back in time and do those things differently. I can’t. ”

“I am now, and have been, focused on my relationship with God, my new wife Stacie, my three kids and one daughter-in-law, and my grandson,” he said.

Tullian and Stacie (Photo Credit: Facebook)
Tullian and Stacie (Photo Credit: Facebook)

Tchividjian’s new wife also posted a wedding photo to social media on Nov. 8, and last week, shared an audio message that Tchividjian had delivered as a recent guest at Spring Hills Community Church in Santa Rosa, California.

“What an honor it was to be invited to Spring Hills Community Church and sincerely welcomed by such a loving staff & congregation!” she wrote. “Our time in Santa Rosa was too short, but SO wonderful… Tullian Tchividjian (my amazing hubby!) delivered an authentic, powerful message…”

“Until we see how bad we are, we will never see how good God is,” Tchividjian declared in the sermon. “Grace will become nothing more than white noise to us until we see how desperately we need it.”

He said that the good news of the gospel is not that Jesus is our example, but that Jesus is our substitute.

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“Jesus being my example is not good news to me, okay? And it shouldn’t be good news to you. He was perfect!” Tchividjian exclaimed. “Jesus being my example further reminds me of how far I have fallen short of God’s glory.”

“[But] this passage show us that sinners are loved by a God who infallibly bends toward us, even while we perpetually bend away from Him,” he said. “He loves bad and broken people because bad and broken people are all that there are. Make not mistake about it: God loves train wrecks because train wrecks are all that there are. He loves us because He loves us. Not because we are good, not because we are clean. He loves us because we are bad and dirty. All of us.”

As previously reported, Tchividjian, 43, the son of Virginia Graham, took over the pulpit of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in 2009 following the passing of founder D. James Kennedy. However, the selection divided the congregation, as some approved and others disapproved of his leadership. Several months after he accepted the job, Kennedy’s daughter and others began calling for his removal.

When a vote was taken over the matter and it was decided to keep Tchividjian as pastor, some left the church and started their own congregation.

As an author, Tchividjian wrote against what he saw as “spiritual performancism” and legalism in the Church, outlining his beliefs in the hyper-grace book “One Way Love: Inexhaustible Grace for an Exhausted World.”

“The Gospel of Jesus Christ announces that because Jesus won for you, you’re free to lose; because Jesus was strong for you, you’re free to be weak; because Jesus was extraordinary, you’re free to be ordinary; because Jesus succeeded for you, you’re free to fail,” he wrote.

Tullian and Kim (Photo Credit: Facebook)
Tullian and Kim (Photo Credit: Facebook)

Tchividjian announced in June last year that he had resigned as senior pastor of Coral Ridge after admitting to leadership that he had inappropriately become close to another woman after he discovered that his wife Kim had been having an affair.

“I resigned from my position at Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church today due to ongoing marital issues,” he wrote in a statement. “As many of you know, I returned from a trip a few months back and discovered that my wife was having an affair. Heartbroken and devastated, I informed our church leadership and requested a sabbatical to focus exclusively on my marriage and family.”

“As her affair continued, we separated. Sadly and embarrassingly, I subsequently sought comfort in a friend and developed an inappropriate relationship myself,” Tchividjian continued. “Last week I was approached by our church leaders and they asked me about my own affair. I admitted to it and it was decided that the best course of action would be for me to resign.”

The former megachurch leader was then stripped of his ministerial credentials, and soon filed for divorce from his wife. Paul Tripp, a pastor who counseled Tchividjian following his admission, wrote in a public statement that he had concluded that Tchividjian’s marriage was “irreparably broken,” suggesting that he had recommended the divorce.

“Sadly, there are times in this broken world where things that have been damaged by sin don’t get put together again,” he wrote in part. “It has been with sadness that I, along with others, have come slowly and cautiously to the conclusion that his marriage is irreparably broken.”

Less than two weeks after the filing, Willow Creek Presbyterian Church in Winter Springs announced that it had hired Tchividjian to serve as Director of Ministry Development. Some expressed concern over the timing of such a move.

But in March of this year, the church fired Tchividjian as he confessed to another affair, stating that he had actually been in yet another inappropriate relationship before his wife was unfaithful to him. Willow Creek Presbyterian expressed concern that he had only confessed to one inappropriate relationship and had not provided the whole truth.

“The feeling of the elders was that Tullian had a long period of time to share that with the church and for one reason or another he elected not to,” leader Kevin Labby told the Christian Post. “I can’t really comment on what motivated him to not come out with that, but one thing that led him to come out with the confession was the knowledge that there were rumors swirling in Florida where he was previously ministering.”

Tchividjian told reporters in September that he had contemplated suicide over the guilt he felt about the matters.

“The hurt I had caused felt too much to bear. The level of shame and guilt and regret was so deep, I literally did not want to live any longer,” he told the Religion News Service. “I had betrayed and disappointed and caused suffering to those who depended on me to provide the opposite. The thought of killing myself was relieving to me. I actually found momentary peace in the idea that I would soon be dead.”

On Wednesday, he publicly asked for forgiveness for his behavior.

“From the bottom of my heart, I am truly sorry for the pain I’ve caused and the hurt I’ve induced and I humbly ask you to please forgive me,” he wrote. “In conclusion, I wholeheartedly agree with Charles Spurgeon who, when looking back on dark seasons in his own life, said, ‘I bear witness that I owe more to the fire, and the hammer, and the file, than to anything else in my Lord’s workshop.'”

As previously reported, Israel Houghton, former worship leader at Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church, recently remarried after obtaining a divorce and admitting that he had been unfaithful to his wife several years ago. He stated that he viewed a new marriage as another opportunity to “get it right.”


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  • BravesFan

    I’m just going to leave this right here: ” For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness, and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ.” – Jude 1:4

  • Amos Moses

    /SMH ………. grandpa must be doing the same …. /SMH ……… Charles Stanley ….. guess he did not listen to you …….

    • Paula Coyle

      uh what? you mean Grandpa must be shaking his head?
      I wonder if anyone’s told him. He’s very very frail these days.

      • Amos Moses

        He has recently made a statement of the falsity of the “bible codes” …….. must have a little bit on the ball ………

  • Amos Moses

    “Until we see how bad we are, we will never see how good God is,” Tchividjian declared in the sermon. “Grace will become nothing more than white noise to us until we see how desperately we need it.”

    hmmmmm …. lets go to the scriptures ……

    6:1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
    6:2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?

    GOD FORBID …………………….. Seems grace HAS become nothing more than white noise to you TT …..

    • eruaran

      Indeed, God does not require us to become adulterers in order for us to be acutely aware of our need of his grace.

  • kenster777

    The fact he got Married a year after having an affair and getting married again should send up red flags to any Christian.
    He needs to learn not to walk after the flesh but after the spirit. Romans 8:1-2.
    But also the statement that Jesus was strong so we can be weak is not according to scriptures.
    I peter 2:21 and James 5:10 says Jesus and other the Prophets gave us an example to walk by so we don’t sin against him.
    You can’t teach others to walk uprightly unless you set the example and if you can’t don’t teach.
    Satan is a deceiver beware of his traps.

    • Paula Coyle

      It’s far, far worse than just marrying again so quickly. Filing for divorce 8 weeks after the public exposure, blaming his wife for his own affair, all of that is plenty for us to know there is a stink in Denmark… er… Fort Lauderdale.

      (To be fair, we still don’t know if she had an affair or not. Maybe she was seeing a counselor to cope with his malignant narcissism.)

  • Guest✓ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ

    The Amy Grant effect.

  • rick tanner

    These churches hired this man because of his NAME. Because he is related to Billy Graham. So much for worshiping man. Every time this is done, a more called man is left out of a ministry where he should have been. Nepotism and cronyism is killing the church, just as it destroys in secular work places.

    • Oboehner

      Shame on that “church” for not removing him.

      • Paula Coyle

        they did remove him, but they should never have hired him in the first place.

  • Royce E. Van Blaricome

    I wonder how Jesus feels about him saying, “Jesus being my example is not good news to me, okay? And it shouldn’t be good news to you.” Actually, I don’t wonder at all. I know better! Evidently, Tchividjian doesn’t understand the meaning of “Follow Me.”

    All sins can be forgiven but there are some sins that should and do forever disqualify one from holding the position of an Overseer. John MacArthur wrote a really good article on this about a year or so ago.

    These kinds of statements from Tchividjian and the info in this article is unfortunately pretty telling. I doubt this is the last time we read of him again and any church that would put him in the position of leadership most certainly isn’t looking at the qualifications that God has laid down.

    • BravesFan

      That line of his has been bothering me for a whole day now. You’re 100% right.

  • Pottendorf

    His father is a clinical psychologist. His maternal grandfather and uncle are famous preachers. His life is under the full measure of the Moses and Elijah. Only the grace of Jesus can save him.

    • Paula Coyle

      but he thinks he already is saved.

  • michael louwe

    Soon, heretic Churches with this kind of Hyper-grace teachers/pastors will likely turn into pseudo wife-swapping clubs(= married couples constantly divorcing n remarrying or changing sex-partners) n social clubs for sexual debauchery/immorality.
    .
    Fyi, 1COR.5:1-13 & 6:9-11, HEB.10:26-31 n REV.22:12-15 state that unrepentant “Christian” sinners/evildoers/lawbreakers will not inherit the kingdom of God/heaven.(caveat at ACTS.15:24-29 for Gentile Christians wrt law-keeping)
    ……. What will likely happen is that such sinners will curse God/Jesus n die while suffering the curses of God = blasphemed against the Holy Spirit or Spirit of God/Jesus,(DEUT.28:15), like the wife of Job, … whereas Job kept the faith, did not curse God n had repented.
    .

    • michael louwe

      Hyper-grace teaching is mostly an excuse for some unrepentant “Christians” to continue to commit sins without any feelings of guilt, as if the Lord Jesus approves of their “weakness” for sins/evil-deeds/law-breaking = conscience seared(1TIM.4:2) = “Christians” more evil than non-Christians.

      • hytre64✓ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ

        Rom 6:1-2What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin so that grace may increase? May it never be! How shall we who died to sin still live in it?

  • hytre64✓ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ

    I agree with 1/2 of his message. Yes, Jesus was our substitute on the cross, but He was also the example for us to follow. He is the firstborn among many brethren. Read Matthew 5 and the Sermon on the Mount – Jesus told us of His expectations for us, ending in Mt 5:48, “Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

    • Paula Coyle

      yes. many of us have been trying to warn about that missing part of his teaching for several years before it all imploded. (but if you read the testimonies it sounds as if this kind of thing had been going on from early in their marriage.)

      And his defenders, even those who make a living exposing false teaching/false teachers, still can’t see it.

  • Emmanuel

    That is great. Forgiven and found a new wife. But, you still can not get behind the pulpit. Time to sit in the pew and just relax.

    • hytre64✓ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ

      Even those who “sit in the pew” should not be relaxing. All Christians are called to be a part of Christ’s ministry, but not all are called to be Pastors. Might I suggest he investigate the “Ministry of Helps”?

      • Emmanuel

        True. You are right. We all can work.

    • Paula Coyle

      He’s already given a couple sermons at Spring Hills Community church in TX. He’s definitely angling for a comeback, and one without Biblical accountability. Parachurch ministry, all that kind of thing, is what it’s looking like.

      • Emmanuel

        That is not good. He will have ignorant followers and supporters.