Judge Finds No Recourse for Mother Whose Son Obtained Hormone Treatments Without Parental Consent

MINNEAPOLIS, Minn. — A federal judge has dismissed a mother’s lawsuit seeking recourse after her parental rights over her son were expropriated and she had been kept in the dark about the provision of hormonal treatments to assist with the teen’s desire to “transition” into a girl.

While he agreed that the teen was not legally emancipated absent a court order, and that the mother’s “parental rights over [her son therefore] remain intact,” U.S. District Judge Paul Magnusen concluded that relief could not be granted against any of the parties sued as they “cannot be held liable … because they did not act under color of state law.”

As previously reported, Anmarie Calgaro announced during a press conference last November that she was troubled to discover that a legal aid group for low income persons had created a notice of emancipation for her then 15-year-old son.

“Last year, without my knowledge or consent, without any court hearings or legal process, without any involvement on my part whatsoever, a legal aid group that gives free services to low income people created a notice of emancipation for my 15-year-old son,” she explained. “Suddenly, my son, without any notice to me, was no longer under my supervision.”

Calgaro said that the document was comprised of false claims and she had not been contacted to verify any of the teen’s assertions.

She explained that her son had asked to stay with his father (Calgaro and her husband are divorced) so he could attend a better school, and Calgaro agreed. However, the emancipation document claimed that Calgaro failed to report her son “as a runaway” over the next six months and “made no attempt to bring him home.” It also asserted that Calgaro had told her son that she “no longer wishes to have contact with him,” which she denies.

The teen soon also left his father’s home and stayed with various friends and family members. He left those homes as well, and now lives on his own.

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Calgaro soon learned in the midst of the situation that her son had also been obtaining female hormone treatments—paid by the government—without her consent.

“It was then brought to my knowledge that my son had begun receiving hormone replacement treatments from Park Nicollet health services to transition from male to female with medical assistance paying for this,” she said. “I was not consulted or informed about this in any way. I had no way to give or receive any information about my son.”

Because of the emancipation document, Calgaro was prohibited from receiving any information about the teen, who was consequently treated as an adult by the Department of Human Services and provided with public services, including assistance with food, housing and medical services.

She attempted to obtain medical and educational records from Park Nicollet and her son’s school, but her requests were denied. She consequently sued, contending that her constitutional parental rights were being unlawfully infringed.

The various defendants moved for summary judgment and dismissal, which Judge Magnusen granted on Monday. While he agreed the emancipation was not valid, he stated that the non-governmental defendants cannot be held liable for their actions because they did not act under state law. The government agencies sued also could only be held responsible if acting under a specific “policy or custom,” which was absent in the case.

Therefore, because the entities did not act in accordance with any law or established practice, Magnusen concluded that Calgaro did not have a legal claim.

“The Eighth Circuit has explicitly left open the question ‘whether and to what extent the fundamental liberty interest in the custody, care, and management of one’s children mandates parental access to school records,'” he also wrote. “The only other circuit to have ruled on this issue has held that a noncustodial parent does not have a protected liberty interest in receiving their children’s school records.”

Calgaro is now considering an appeal.

“People left and right in Minnesota agree that emancipation procedures need to be put into a statute so this confusion over parental rights never happens again,” her attorney, Erick Kaardal with the Thomas More Society, said in a statement. “Anmarie Calgaro is living a parent’s worst nightmare. Her minor child has been piloted by third parties through a life-changing, permanent body altering process by organizations that have no legal authority over him, and that have denied his own mother access.”

“I am firmly committed for what is best for my son—for all of my children,” Calgaro also said in January. “I am his mother. He is and always will be welcome in our home.”


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  • Robert

    If this was done to a Atheist family than any thing they want to do to get back at the state would be fair play as long as they get away with it. They could set fires steal state stuff or use other means to get back at the state until they are satisfied. Christians can’t do this vengence belongs to the Lord.

  • calduncan

    The progressive belief that government is the friend of the people is a dogma with no proof.

    Stories like these help convert people to libertarianism. These government employees ought to be fired and imprisoned.

    • Ambulance Chaser

      For what offenses?

      • Chris

        “For what offenses?”

        Outraging fundie sensibilities.

      • PatrickM

        For the offense of allowing fraudulent misrepresentation to be used to deny parental rights.

        • Ambulance Chaser

          What fraudulent misrepresentations were made, to whom, and what parental rights were denied?

          • PatrickM

            It’s in the article: “Calgaro said that the document was comprised of false claims and she had not been contacted to verify any of the teen’s assertions.”
            She was denied parental rights without her consent, knowledge or right to dispute or correct the false claims.

          • Ambulance Chaser

            No she wasn’t. The “notice of emancipation” didn’t do anything. The Court didn’t accept it and the minor in question was never declared emancipated.

    • Colin Rafferty

      The government is absolutely the friend of the child. Her mother didn’t even know she didn’t know where she was living. She chose to have no contact with her for over a year, and is then surprised to find out that she emancipated himself.

      In fact, the whole point of “emancipated minor” is that your parents aren’t taking care of you, and you are able to take care of yourself.

      Why should the mother have any rights to tell her daughter what she can do, if she has abandoned her so long ago?

  • RWH

    A woman who claims that she cares for her son does not kick the son out of the house and then not make any attempts to find him. Since then, the kid has established his own life with his own apartment and job, and now she wants to insert herself into his life even though the evidence shows that she did not care even enough to find out where he is and how he is doing. The court has recognized the emancipation, and if she pursues this, the case will just drag on until he reaches 18 years. She made this mess, and yet she can’t seem to realize that the situation is out of her hands. There is much written about this in the press, and a simple google search will reveal a number of articles on this.

    • Ambulance Chaser

      The court didn’t recognize that the child was emancipated. The judge just said it was an open question but was irrelevant since the mother had no cause of action.

    • Ben Welliver

      As usual, a single person claims to be an expert on child-rearing.

      You know nothing at all.

      • RWH

        Now that you have gotten all of your invective off your chest, do you feel better?

        • Ben Welliver

          Stick to subjects you know about. An elderly single person knows nothing about children.

          • Chris

            So tell me would you throw your children out of the house?

      • Cori Wolvesbane

        if someone is raising a child they should be present in the child’s life.
        The mother in question was not. It doesn’t take an expert to know that raising a child means actually being around the child to raise them.

        • Ben Welliver

          Another childless “expert” chimes in.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            Actually i have a child, and they are well taken care of, I feed, house and clothe him and make sure he is supervised… and that is at least the minimum requirement of a parent till they are able to live on their own independently. If I abandoned him before the age of 18 where he is a legal adult he would not be my child anymore, if he lived on his own he would be his own person or if he was adopted by another family due to me not taking care of him he would belong to the other family.
            I think i know how parenting works.

          • Ben Welliver

            “i have a child, and they are well taken care of.”

            I gather English is not your first language. You a legal immigrant, or illegal?

          • Michael C

            I gather English is not your first language. You a legal immigrant, or illegal?

            You a English teacher?

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            Actually english is my first and sadly only language as america is not like other countries and it is not common here to speak more than one language, in fact i’m partially native american but mostly my ancestors on both sides originated from germany.
            If you were commenting on my use of the word “they” said word can be used as a singular, gender neutral pronoun. It even mentions it in the Oxford Dictionary if you were willing to look it up. If it was for the oxford comma then that is just as silly to concern yourself with. Though I do mix up than and then from time I tend to be above par when it comes to grammar, punctuation and spelling.
            But to assume that I am an immigrant for your own lack of understanding of the english language or if I actually did make any mistakes, is just plain childish at best, rather immature but an immature reaction is typical of someone who is blatantly wrong in an argument and just grasping at straws to find insults.

          • PatrickM

            “If you were commenting on my use of the word “they” said word can be used as a singular, gender neutral pronoun.”

            No it’s not.

            ‘They’ is plural in the English language.

            Do you have one child? Is it a son or daughter?

            So you are word-bending in order to engage in gender-bending? Truly SAD!

          • Ambulance Chaser

            “Do you have one child? Is it a son or daughter?”

            If a person is gender nonconforming, what pronoun would you use to refer to him/her?

          • PatrickM

            Whether it’s the 99.7% of boys and girls that know who they are or the 0.3% that are ‘nonconforming’, you go by the biology. As in:

            “My gender-non-conforming son thinks he’s a woman.”

          • Ambulance Chaser

            Okay, except that biologically, trans people are the gender they gender they conform to. So your gender nonconforming son is a woman in every aspect except genitalia.

          • PatrickM

            You are being contradictory. ‘genitalia’ is biological. So is DNA. DNA drives what body parts you have, including genitalia. A person with XY dna and male genitalia is biologically a male, a ‘he’. It all is consistent except in the tiny tiny fraction of individuals with genetic abnormalities.

            Surgery and hormone shots can change appearances, but can’t change DNA.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            actually “They” is, by part of the oxford dictionary definition is “Used to refer to a person of unspecified gender.”
            However this child is defined by the gender that their doctors say they are. She is a girl if you wish for me to say it.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            and again this mother stopped feeding, housing, clothing and supervising their child, they no longer should have parental rights as they are not in a parental position.
            Now my own child will always be my son but once hes out on his own hes not my “child” anymore, be it emancipated or just estranged at 16 or just 18 and making their own life they belong, not to me, but to themselves and i will accept that i have no control over their actions or behavior but unlike this mother i will always be there.

          • Sharon_at_home

            She said in the article that she would still welcome him/her because she loves him and she had her rights taken away from her – it’s not like she went to all the trouble she did because she didn’t want him in her life.
            Read the article right down to the bottom if you want to know the facts about it.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            The child in question, (who has been deemed a female by her doctors and has documentation allowing her to get an ID with gender as a girl so should and will be referred to as such) has been living on her own and feels like she is unable to come home and still remain getting the treatment she desires on top of that the mother gave her up to her father, who gave her up to her grandmother who eventually left and lived with friends and is now living, happily on her own like an adult. The girl in question was free to leave and she took it and her mother, up until now, had nothing to do with her. She has became her own person so just because the woman who gave birth said she would welcome her home as a son but not a daughter and wouldn’t accept her as such is not welcoming her home.
            That is like saying a child who ran away from abuse and has lived on their own from years is “welcome to come home” they should not be obligated to take it and accept them as their parents.

          • patriotmom54

            We might as well end this, Cori, because I have seen enough testimonies of both young and old people who regret their transition and have tried to change back. Just a short time pumping hormones into these people can change their voice and other things in ways that can not apparently be changed again. The scientific community is really not sure what these hormones alone (not even going there to the surgery) will do long term to people’s health. The bottom line for me is that a person cannot really become the opposite sex to what they were born. Yes there are a small amount of people born with ambiguous sex organs, but that is NOT what is going on in most of these trans situations. This is just one more way that the enemy of our souls is trying to thwart the God of the universe but in the long run it cannot be done. I hope some day you and others will see this to be true. I want God’s best for people and trying to totally change who He made a person to be is NOT God’s best for them.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            And then there are the people in my life who have been trans for years and have no intention of being anything but. There are many people out there who live long and happy lives after transitioning and are happy with who they have become and every single one of them that i know knew they were trans when they were a child or teenager.
            Even if you disagree the thing is some people were born with the brain being one gender and the body being another. You cannot change the brain easily, trying to change someone’s brain can damage them as a person and make them suffer for their entire life… but you can change the body and generally the body can continue to change, its not always easy but it is a lot easier and safer than trying to fix the brain. If this is true then that is just how god made them, mismatched and its up to them how they handle it.
            I get that we come from two different experiences. I have come from very close friends who were more damaged when their family tried to fix them their own way, by demeaning, denying and threatening them over their feelings and seeing suicides because parents refused to listen and understand.
            You come from seeing people who regret their adult decision to transition. Who hate who they have become and you don’t want to see anyone else go through that and that’s actually commendable as you want what’s best and for people not to go through that regret.
            What you don’t see is that there are people out there who are happier transitioned and stayed that way happily all their lives and even if you do see that your state of mind says “Don’t do it just in case you regret it later” and i get that… however this person is allowed to decide for themselves.
            You may not see them as an adult but as she is doing everything by herself like an adult so to me she is an adult. She should be aloud to decide for herself what she wants to do for herself and with herself and what she feels is best for herself. No stranger or family or anyone in her life can decide this for her in her situation and i support that. I am not saying you have to agree with people being transgender or that your own experiences with trans people don’t matter… but i think you should agree that an adult can make their own decisions.
            I mean we live in america, therefore we value freedom which should mean being free to do what other people may or may not see as a mistake. Let them be free to decide for themselves whats best… and if they decide later on that it was a bad decision that is on them but people who are happy with the decision, they matter too and it’s not for us to decide for them and once they are out of the parents care it’s not for the parents to decide ether. Even if we disagree on the decision made I think we should both agree that its the person’s choice to make it, not ours. This person left their parents and made the decision of their own free will and a parent who was absent for a long time while the offspring in question lived freely without them should not have say in their life.

          • patriotmom54

            Your information is wrong.

          • patriotmom54

            Or perhaps YOUR information is wrong, Cori.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            Oh really a mother who hasn’t even seen their child in a year… but they somehow manage to take care of them… please explain.

          • patriotmom54

            Neither of us know why she hasn’t seen him. It is very possible the father who has custody has not let it happen. You’re making a lot of assumptions here based on very little information.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            Well the child in question, who is a teenager, able to get a job, finish school and live on her own over a year and didn’t locate her mother obviously had reasons not to. Even if the mother didn’t visit her daughter on her own her child didn’t want to see her and her being called a boy after living life as a female is a rather good reason.

          • patriotmom54

            The point is that the “child in Question” is a CHILD and it is my opinion that NO child should be able to undergo such life changing unnecessary medical treatments. I don’t care if the mother is the worse mother in the world, it is child abuse what the medical community is allowing in the name of political correctness that may end up destroying this young person’s life forever. Studies have shown that the majority of minors who think they are trans will realize they are not in their 20’s or 30’s and neither commit suicide or continue wanting surgery. Would you let your child cut off a leg or arm because they really believed they were supposed to be without one?

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            Atually as the “child” is turning 18 this year they are not a child.
            Honestly most people who transition don’t get anything “cut” for a long time or even ever. Mostly its medicinal treatment that changes the hormonal makeup of the body. In other words they can stop taking it any time so yes, if my child wanted to take said medication as a teenager that had no lasting consequences and had good medical reason provided by doctors and social workers/psychiatrists i would be happy to support them.
            As for the child in question, they, again are living a full life, in their own apartment, making money, paying rent, buying their own food and getting themselves to and from school and are already planning college and their future…. they are an adult even if they are not at adult age they are doing better for themselves and are fully functioning to live on their own. Seeing as they are living like an adult their parents who are not doing anything to support them or help they with food, apartment, or anything have really no right in saying what they can and cannot do with their own body within the confines of the law and what this young adult is doing is completely legal.

          • PatrickM

            If you are under 18 you are legally a minor.
            The ‘legal’ group who did the emancipation LIED on the application.
            Fraud and misrepresentation was used to enact the emancipation order.

          • Ambulance Chaser

            The child was never emancipated. The paperwork never turned into any kind of court order.

            The issue has nothing to do with the child being emancipated.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            I don’t think you understand what “Emancipation” means if they are not allowed to emancipate a minor.
            Ether way, minor by age or not they are as much of an adult as anyone who lives on their own and provides for themselves. If they can provide their own roof over their head and put food on their own table they are an adult in anyone’s book.

        • Sharon_at_home

          She was around until he asked to live with his father to attend a better school. then it was taken out of her hands unwillingly.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            The mother gave her up willingly to her father and it was the daughter’s choice to leave to the grandmothers and it was her choice to live on her own. She felt it was better this way and the parents have allowed this for a year. If the parents were really concerned they would have found them a long time ago, looked for them or filed a missing person’s report if they were concerned that they “ran away”. The fact is they didn’t care to get her back and suddenly caring after they got treatment on their own doesn’t constitute actually caring.

    • Bob Johnson

      And in years to come many folks will enjoin this child to obey the commandment given in Exodus to “Honor your father and mother…”

    • Sharon_at_home

      She did not kick her son out, she agreed he could live with his father so he could go to a better school. He did not run away from her with her knowledge because she believed that he was with his father. Once she found out that he wasn’t with his father anymore she did search for him and found the situation that the article was about. She cares very much for her son, and only wants the best for him, and other people took her rights away so she had no recourse at all.
      I know what it is like to have a son leave and not be in contact afterwards. It is what I live with every day. It’s not an easy thing to have to endure and believe me no mother that loves their child should ever have to go through it. sometimes it feels like I’m in Hell on earth because I miss him so much and want him back in my life. You obviously have no idea how much it hurts to have a child turn their back on their mother.
      She did not make the mess, the people who lied and got the boy emancipated did. She had nothing to do with all that at all. As far as she knew he was being taken care of by his father and had no reason to be concerned.
      Please read the article again so you can know what it says, instead of assuming things that are not correct.

      • RWH

        I have already read other articles including the court record. The woman did not search for her child nor did she know where the child was. I honestly don’t believe that she was hurting. This is all about control, and she has no recourse if her child is now turning 18. She was a crappy mother. I know how the situation works. I have dealt with young people who have no place to go during holidays because their families don’t want them. I also know of students who want nothing to do with families that are toxic. I’m on the Board of a religious institution that has a residential home that works with young people who for one reason or another cannot live at home. People work with both the kids and the parents, and often the parents are more difficult to deal with. The lady in this case is certainly no paragon of virtue.

        • Sharon_at_home

          All it took was a misunderstanding for my son to leave our family. He won’t allow me to talk to him about it, and he won’t allow anyone else to discuss it either on threat of dropping them from his life too.
          Right up to that day, he said he loved me every time we spoke, he hugged me fiercely when we saw each other, and he used to tell us that out of all his friends, we were the only parents that brought them up without problems. Most of his friends did not really bother with their parents, but all 3 of my sons always have, until the middle one left.
          I’ve known lots of children that were in terrible homes and used to take them in as often as possible to give them a break from that life.
          I still remember the look of shock on one of their faces when they saw my husband and I hug and kiss each other before he went out. I don’t think he’d ever seen anything like it in his short life. That look broke my heart and made me try even harder to help the ones that were having a hard time at home. I worked in the school, so I was able to find out which ones I could help fairly easily.
          I’ve learned that the media has a bad habit of twisting the truth. I don’t take everything they say verbatim and I don’t think there is much truth in the media anymore. That’s one of the things that has changed totally since I was born. The media were required by law at one point to keep to the facts and look what happened when that stopped. All the rags started making stories that sounded like they were real and people were sucked into them believing them until the people they made up stories about started suing them.

          • RWH

            Probably what you need to do is to read the court case. This is all available on the internet, but not all of it is free. Whenever I see something like this, I read around as much as possible. There is no truly objective source as people will put an interpretation on things. The court case, however, is the Real McCoy.

            I’m sorry for your loss, but we all have suffered losses in our lives. There are very few of us who haven’t had family members who mistreated us. My sister was toxic until the day that she died. I overlooked a number of really hurtful things because I knew that she was so sick for the last few years. She would write cruel things about me to all her email friends and would make prayer requests in church. What spared me was that her funeral was two weeks away from 9-11, an people had bigger fish to fry since this was close to New York City.
            For me, it was a relief to live over a 1000 miles away from her and also my father and stepmother, who were also toxic in their own separate ways. Unfortunately for them, it was more of a relief when they died, and I spent very little time in the grief process. My mother, who was an abused spouse, passed away when I was 22, and I spent a few years grieving and feeling bad that my father mistreated her when she was so sick.

            I spend a lot of time working with young people, and many have the similar issues. I have one right now that just graduated from college, has no family, no job to go to, and no place to live. We all live through pain. A secretary I work with lost her son in 2014 through a tragic car accident where a drunk driver hit him. She still has his ashes on her living room mantle, and she doesn’t go through a day without crying. Tragedy comes in all shapes and sizes. However, the mother in this case made some very bad decisions, and unless she decides to accept a living daughter, she will forever have a dead son. With a little luck, maybe things will turn around, but it often takes years and a lot of softening of hearts. Death represents a closed door, but as long as you son is alive, there is hope. Maybe someday he will be receptive should a friend or relative talk with him, but should that day come, you need to embrace him with open arms and accept his life choices. You’ll only have that one chance. I’m sorry for your loss, but you are just one more person like the rest of us who has a cross to bear.

            I have probably said too much, knowing that a lot of people on this list are also toxic and judgmental and have zero love and Christian compassion. Like my deceased family, they will use any sign of weakness as a tool with which to bludgeon.

          • Sharon_at_home

            I do thank you for your compassion about my situation. I don’t really tell very many people so I haven’t really had many people try to encourage me through this. Most people who know about it are silent around me. I often feel like if I tell people they will think I’m a bad mother, when I’m not. I love all my children and would never do any harm to any of them, and gave them the best life I could, which they say was great.
            I regularly give this to God as a burden because if I don’t I sit around and cry all time. He takes it for me and makes me forget until something happens to make me think about it again.
            I would take him back in a heart beat and I can only pray that he knows that. I think he would in his heart, but I don’t know how easy it would be for him and wonder if that will keep him away because he doesn’t know how to approach me.
            He stopped talking to my husband around the same time because he was putting up awful things about me that were not true, and my husband asked him (politely under the circumstances) to not talk like that about his mother and he told him off and blocked him too.
            As I said, thank you for your compassion and understanding. It helps to know I’m not alone with my heart break.
            I feel the same way about a lot of the posters here but I keep myself polite and try very hard to get discussions going rather than name-calling and a lot of people do settle down to discuss things instead, but as you say they are judgemental and do not show Love or Christian compassion which is my biggest reason for posting to them. I cannot see how a person who feels no love, but only hate, will turn to Jesus and his salvation. they don’t understand and get quite upset with my view. It’s like they have never read the gospel and only about the sins that God hated. Jesus hated sins but he loved all of us and that was knowing that we are all sinners that he died on the cross for us. Why would he do something with such love and want us to show hate at all.
            Thanks again, I pray that we will both be better people for the suffering we have had to go through. God is with us, and he loves us no matter what, and I find that very reassuring. God bless, I hope we will meet again on these comment boards. It’s good to meet another Christian who believes in Jesus’ love and wants to spread the Good News as truly good news. Take care!

          • RWH

            Sharon,

            It’s a shame that there is no way to take this private. We probably would have a lot of good things to share with each other. Your pain is in the present. Mine is in the past. I talk with the secretary a lot whose pain is particularly acute after three years, and while I admit that I don’t have the answers, all I can do is to listen and let her bear her soul in the hopes that I can hasten the grieving process. Throughout the years, when I see students in a lot of stress, I have told them that I would burn a candle for them in church–not one of the little ones but the huge five dollar ones. It always makes them feel so much better that someone in “authority” cares. I have spent a lot of time helping students find solutions to what they considered to be insolvable problems. In some cases, I can pull some strings, but in most, I can just tell them that I’ll light enough candles that the church may burn down. However, taking the time–whatever time is necessary–to let these people get stuff off their chests, is the best remedy. I have had students tell me years later that some of these conversations turned things around. One older woman told me that she would not have graduated if it weren’t for me, and all I did was to spend about five minutes in a parking lot with her instead of rushing to class. The 99 sheep waited patiently while I dealt with the one.

      • Michael C

        Once she found out that he wasn’t with his father anymore she did search for him and found the situation that the article was about.

        I think your emotional investment regarding this topic, as well as your single-source understanding of the situation, may be clouding your ability to see the whole story objectively.

        E.J.K’s father went to prison shortly after she moved in with him (two years ago), forcing her to find another home. Calgaro knew about this. It was two years ago and Calgaro knew about it. As Calgaro says in her complaint;
        “Although Ms. Calgaro and Karl [E.J.K’s father] are divorced, that has not interfered with their communication regarding the welfare of their son [sic] J.D.K”

        The teen lived with her grandmother for a short amount of time. She also lived with friends before moving into her apartment.

        Two years later, Anmarie Calgaro discovers that her daughter (soon to be turning 18 and has been living on her own away from her mother for two years) is receiving hormone therapy. This is when Calgaro decides that she wants to be a mother again, for the sole purpose of preventing her daughter from receiving medical treatments.

        Nonetheless, Anmarie Calgaro is suing her daughter for control over her life on the eve of her 18th birthday. I think it’s probably a little too late.

    • patriotmom54

      Did you listen to this? She did NOT kick him out. Their family decided he could live with his dad.

  • Michael C

    Anmarie Calgaro has not been a mother to her transgender daughter for a couple years now. The teen (who turns 18 in July) has a full-time job, pays her own rent, is finishing up high school, and has already been accepted by two college nursing programs.

    I have read the accusations against Anmarie regarding her past but, without verification, I don’t think it’s necessary to get into those issues. What is known is that the young woman’s father was incarcerated shortly after she moved in with him. I think it’s fair to at least entertain the notion that this teen’s parents may not have been the most stable people in the Iron Range.

    At this point, pursuing the lawsuit with an appeal is pointless. Calgaro’s daughter will be 18 and well out of her mother’s grasp before anything could come of it.

    Why is Anmarie Calgaro appealing the decision, then? What could she possibly have to gain? The answer isn’t funny but it rhymes with it.

    • Nidalap

      Sometimes justice is worth striving for.
      These folks overstepped their bounds and must be made to pay a price to insure they think twice before doing so again.
      I don’t remember you making any funny rhymes about folks suing Christian bakers or county clerks…

      • Ambulance Chaser

        If they “overstepped their bounds,” why couldn’t Calgaro find something she could successfully accuse them of?

        • Nidalap

          If they didn’t overstep their bounds, why then is the minor not, in fact emancipated? 🙂

          • Ambulance Chaser

            Because the defendants have no power to emancipate her and she didn’t ask them to. The case wasn’t a petition for emancipation. It was a Sec. 1983 action alleging that Calgaro was denied her parental rights.

            Now answer my question.

      • Michael C

        Firstly, this woman is suing her own daughter.

        Second, who violated either the law or another person’s rights?

      • Cady555

        They did not overstep their bounds.

        Parents do not own children. This “mother’s” religion and prejudices prevent her from loving her daughter as she is. This young woman appears to be b thriving without

      • Cori Wolvesbane

        The child in question was living without the parent for over a year before the mother new they were transitioning. If the parent has had parental rights they should be taken away anyways due to neglect; the child being left alone for over a year without parental supervision.

    • Charles Ceaser

      You do mean ANMARE’S SON RIGHT DUDE????you are talking about her SON….who was born with a PENIS because he is a MAN NOT A WOMAN!!!WOMEN HAVE VAGINAS AND BREASTS…MEN DON’T!

      • Cori Wolvesbane

        you sir are a moron with no medical degree or even a lick of research on said topic. Gender is based on more factors over what is between the legs or should i say you are an IT now if you become a eunuch for then you would have no penis or vagina. Regardless of what you are born with you made it clear its the only thing that makes you a man.
        Now the actual truth is that it has to do with genetics and just simply the function of the brain, chromosomes and what not as well as how a person thinks and feels.
        But of course you
        Would rather not pay attention to that and just yell at the top of your lungs like an inbred monkey that “oo oo ahh ahh penis man, vagina woman” like that is the only “science” you need.

        • astimemarcheson

          Baloney . There is no medical or scientific proof of any genetic cause. This is an ideology pure and simple.

          • Cori Wolvesbane

            If you decide to actually do research with an open mind without saying “this doesn’t agree with my views so i chose not to believe it” you would find that there is plenty of evidence.

  • bowie1

    The son could be a very lonely person if he supposedly becomes a girl and then is found out to actually be a boy, and any relationship prospects would be scared away.

    • Michael C

      You may not understand it but transgender women and men find love just like everyone else.

      • bowie1

        As long as they are aware of it but I have heard of those who were left out in the cold when prospects found out who they used to be. It really is a form of deception.

        • Michael C

          We can definitely agree that deception is bad and nothing good comes of it.

      • Reason2012

        No, everyone else finds love with a person of the opposite gender – not by playing make believe and finding it with the same gender and then demanding the rest of society bow down to their make-believe world-view were everyone else’s kids and grandkids are force fed acceptance of this perversion under pressure of the utmost of hate if they do not.

        • Michael C

          Transgender men and women often find love with members of the opposite gender (however you choose to look at it).

  • Robert

    Adams reasoning is God over all it can do what it wants hold wrongs against any one and punish any one in the way it wants. It’s the God of self. Most atheists love this God only.

  • yabruf

    Paid for by the government?! Great so my tax dollars are paying for this dude to turn himself into a freak?

    Thanks mom, you did a real bang up job raising your son to be a reprobate. Another casualty of the depraved left.

    Poor kid was most likely abused by a filthy sodomite as an infant while the mom was trying to make a living with the pathetic excuse of a father sitting on the sidelines.

    Leviticus 20:13 would have saved this dude a lot of confusion and pain. Now society is left to deal with the mess of a mentally unstable and morally depraved individual.

  • Cori Wolvesbane

    Its a good thing the system is working for the daughter (yes daughter regardless what you think doctors have provided documentation where she can now get id with her listed as female so not based on opinion, so by law, not belief, she is a girl and im going on that and also her feelings not some strangers belief.)
    Its a good thing the system is working for the girl, i mean seriously if you were living in an apartment, working, feeding, clothing and doing everything for yourself would you want your mom knocking on your door telling you what you can and cannot do and then closing the door leaving you to fend for yourself again?
    Probably not
    No matter what the status is of her emancipation she is on her own and her mom didn’t even know about her transition for a good year or more, the mother wanted nothing to do with her and now after she found out that her child was able to do what they sought out to do on their own she got mad and decided to try and stop them from doing something they did while the mother was not present in their life. For the mother to go out and try and butt into their estranged child’s life is just ridiculous.

    • PatrickM

      Her son can pretend to be a girl, but he is still biologically a boy, and synthetically turning via hormones into a female never makes one biologically female. DNA is DNA.

      The system didn’t ‘work’ at all. It used fraud and deception to deny a parent her rights to advise and consent regarding her minor son. NONE of these serious things should be done without parental consent, and aiding and abetting subterfuge like this is wrong.
      Destruction of families is not a good thing and should not be celebrated by anyone, no matter their views on gender or sexual orientation.

      • Chris

        Indeed the destruction and persecution of individuals is a horrible thing too but fundies don’t seem to have a problem with it where LGBTs are concerned.

      • Cori Wolvesbane

        As an adult I don’t need parental consent, thanks.
        As this person is living as an adult and their parents are providing nothing for them they are as much of an adult as i am and they don’t have to have their parents butting in if they don’t want to.
        as for DNA, I don’t think you understand how science works
        its more than just X or Y chromosomes it has a lot to do with the chemical production and makeup now and back in the womb during fetal development. A lot of things and problems can happen between the body and the brain such as breathing in toxic air from pollution can increase chances in autism developing in the brain. .
        Ether way, even if the son is a minor by age she is an adult as their parents are not a part of her life. Its sad that her parents decided they didn’t want anything to do with her up until this point for over a year until they found out long after she was living without them without even a visit from them but that is the way the parents chose to go and the person in question is fine without them.

  • Cady555

    I watched the video. The mom made it all about her. Her rights. Her pain. Her. Her. Her.

    Her child is trangendered. I did not hear one word indicating that she had sought out information or attempted to understand. Throughout, she misgendered her child. She saw nothing from her child’s perspective. She is convinced she knows everything there is to know. She sought no information that might challenge her preconceived ideas. She will not listen to her child.

    Given the suicide rates when trans teens do not receive family support, her daughter is better off without her.

  • Grace Kim Kwon

    US children need Christian education. Children and youth need to be taught to live out the truth, the birth gender. Transgenderism is a sin and a rebellion against the Creator God.

    • Amanda Hunter

      please do a lot of reading on this subject. being transgender is not a sin. how do you know he did not plan for transgender people to exist?

      • Not Guilty

        Why do you pretend to be a woman? It’s sick.

        • Chris

          Why do you pretend to be a Christian? It’s sick.

          • Grace Kim Kwon

            True Christians oppose transgenderism. Everyone must live out one’s own birth gender. That’s truth-keeping.

      • Grace Kim Kwon

        God never planned mankind’s sinfulness. It is mankind’s willful choice. God prohibited cross-dressing – transgenderism. Western white people and their servants support transgenderism because they are being full and bored. Rich bored people do some weirdest things on earth for amusement. It’s vital to oppose the West’s transgender mental illness this century because it brings slavery by mental illness. Mankind used to have a few mad men as emperors, but not ruling mentally ill mass like this century. The West lost its common sense by losing out the Christianity.

        • Dianne

          Grace, again you make statements that continually condemn Western society when SIN is GLOBAL. Including the country that you live in. Where are you learning to be a Christian? Your words of race baiting and condemnation of where others live in another Hemisphere is really redundant and foolish on your part and DOES NOT REFLECT THE CHARACTER OF JESUS CHRIST. Have you ever read where the early apostles BLAMED ROME OR ANY OTHER NATIONS OR RACES for the immorality they lived around? No they DID NOT! But they committed themselves to the proclamation of the gospel of Jesus Christ and they were very successful by the POWER of the Holy Spirit to see thousands of souls saved. Acts 2:38-39 You need to read the book of Acts and stop with your condemnation! The Holy Spirit convictsthe world of sin and of judgement, NOT YOU! John 16:8

          These are your derogatory quotes: ” Western white people and their servants support transgenderism because they are being full and bored.” Again you have made a statement using generalities which is FALSE. Your nation allows this perversion too. All Asian countries do it wether they want to acknowledge it or not.

          You again said ” It’s vital to oppose the West’s transgender mental illness this century because it brings slavery by mental illness.”
          Please let us know when YOUR NATION IS CLEAN FROM THIS SIN. Also please let us know when sex trafficking is ended in the EASTERN HEMISPHERE since 2/3 of sex trafficking is committed by Asian countries. Matthew 7:1-5 will do you well to read. I hope that you REALIZE that we are in the LAST DAYS and that it is as the “Days of Noah” Matthew 24:37-39, Luke 17:26-30 and that the WHOLE WORLD lieth in wickedness 1 John 5:19
          Are you FINALLY GETTING THE BIBLICAL WORLD VIEW??

  • patriotmom54

    It is child abuse to allow these minors to take hormones like this. They have no real idea what happens 30 years down the road to thes young people. The medical people involved in this stuff should be sued for malpractice. This young man will NEVER be a woman. In what world are people allowed to cut off healthy body parts? His DNA will not change. Imagine allowing an anorexic young adult to continue to starve themselves because they believe they are fat. And there are people that think they were supposed to be born without one of their arms or legs. Do we just allow doctors to remove a healthy limb or do we get them psychological help? The works has gone completely nuts.

    • Amanda Hunter

      please do more reading on this subject and on this story

      • PatrickM

        He already has.

  • Amanda Hunter

    to bad they did not tell the whole truth in this story please do independent research

    • Not Guilty

      In other words,
      read things that confirm your bias.

      No thanks.

      • Chris

        “In other words,read things that confirm your bias.”

        Yeah. Pesky things like scientific papers, neurological studies, etc. That’s what non-fundies call evidence though.

  • Dianne

    The suicide rate amongst transgenders is very high and they usually have a lot of regret later. Many individuals who are COMING OUT of this perverted lifestyle are trying to warn others but they are being silenced by the radical LGBQT community that are militantly opposing them. Still truth is available for those who seek it. There are many wonderful testimonies online and on YouTube. The LORD JESUS has healed and delivered many souls. Praise God for his infinite mercies.